Someone sent this to an online group I'm part of and i loved it. So I've put it here to remind me of how i like to be around my children. I don't like the note of regret that seeps thru the poem due to the title and structure of the sentences... but the points made are lovely and help me as i unschool myself. Maybe I'll re-write this poem in a positive... "i'm doing this now" way.
If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again
by Diane Loomans
If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd build self esteem first, and the house later.
I'd fingerpaint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I'd model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.